how to ask for weed

How to Ask a Friend for Weed [Text, Call, and More!]

Cannabis is now legal in the majority of states, in one way or another. At present, medical marijuana programs are more common than legal recreational use, but polls show that American citizens are slowly changing their opinions.

Now that the tide is turning, we expect to see more and more states getting involved with cannabis legalization. Whether cannabis will be legalized on a federal level remains to be seen. Still, examples of decriminalization in Portugal and legalization in Canada show that the world doesn’t descend into chaos as a result of legal pot.

But while people’s access to cannabis is blocked, there will always be an illegal market. In some legal states, citizens feel priced out of the cannabis sector, and so black-market dealers are still thriving. We never encourage our readers to engage in illicit activities, so this guide to asking your friends for weed will primarily be for those in states with marijuana regulations.

If you’re wondering how to broach the awkward conversation of asking your buddy for weed, then read on.

Why Do You Need to Ask a Friend for Weed?

First off, we encourage you to consider why you’re asking a friend for weed. If you live in a US state with legal recreational marijuana, then you don’t really need to ask someone else for pot. There are still some circumstances in which you might want to ask someone else, however.

For example, some minors may be tempted to ask their older peers to visit a dispensary for them. However, the laws are in place for a reason, and you shouldn’t really be using recreational marijuana if you’re underage.

But some people just feel a little anxious about going themselves. We get it – it can be scary! If you have a friend who’s knowledgeable about cannabis, you might as well ask them to help out. This way, you get to enjoy your first marijuana experience without the knee-trembling thought of going into a dispensary with no clue what to do.

And if you’re feeling anxious about a dispensary, then you might also be nervous about asking your pal for pot. After all, you don’t want to come across totally green! That’s why you’re here, reading this article. Below, we cover some of the basic terminologies so that you can confidently ask your friend for weed without turning red in the face.

Get Familiar with Cannabis Terms

Your friend might ask you what kind of weed you want. There are different types, including sativa and indica strains. As a general rule of thumb, sativas make you feel euphoric and spacy, whereas indicas relax your body and put you to sleep eventually. You can read the strain reviews here at WayofLeaf to get an indication of some of the most popular strains. However, if you’re completely lost, don’t be afraid to get your friend’s recommendation.

Easing the boredom…

Aside from this, there’s plenty more terminology to familiarize yourself with. For starters, there are weights. Your friend (or dealer) will need to know the amount of cannabis you’re wanting. Here’s a quick rundown:

  • 1g: About enough to fit in a joint. Cannabis isn’t often sold in these quantities as it’s a bit pointless.
  • Eighth: An 8th of an ounce, or 3.5g.
  • Half: Half an ounce, or 14g.
  • Ounce: 28g, and usually the maximum amount. You can, of course, purchase 2 ounces, etc.

You may also hear the term ‘dub.’ This refers to a bag of cannabis costing twenty dollars. It’s usually roughly a gram, and it tends to be low-quality. The same applies to a ‘dime’ of weed, which is a ten-dollar bag

Speaking of quality, you may also come across terms like ‘dank,’ ‘mids,’ and ‘regs.’ These are basically tiers of cannabis. Dank weed is the highest quality and is the most expensive, while regs (or schwag) are of poor quality. Most people opt for mids, which remain affordable while supplying a decent high.

How Much Does Weed Cost?

If the person you’re asking for weed really is a friend, then you shouldn’t need to know too much about the cost. However, there’s always a chance that you’ll get ripped off.

Marijuana prices vary between states and even cities. It’s a matter of doing some research before you buy. Sadly, legal dispensaries tend to offer more expensive products than street dealers. Supposedly, you’re paying for a safety and quality assurance that your cannabis is potent and won’t make you sick.

For the sake of argument, California dispensaries sell an ounce of marijuana for $257 on average or $5.97 for a joint. By the way, Oregon’s weed is the cheapest, retailing for an average of $211 per ounce.

How to Ask a Friend for Weed

Now, onto the good stuff. The time has come to reach out to your buddy and make your request. But how do you go about it? Here are some suggestions.

Ask over Text

It’s 2020, and most people are chatting via text or social media messaging apps. If you’re getting in touch with friends, it’s likely via a texting service. In fact, many street dealers operate this way nowadays.

However, you’ve got to be careful. Law enforcement can be picky about texts regarding marijuana, even if you live in a legal state. So, if you’re texting your friend and asking them to pick up some quality bud, try to be discreet.

Marijuana aficionados will know that the thousands of words for weed have grown out of a long history of subtlety. Pot, grass, Mary Jane… whatever the newest name is, you’ll sound more comfortable and confident if you use it.

If you’re messaging a friend that’s a dealer, discreteness is even more vital. Try a message like, “Hey, can we meet later?” rather than straight-up asking for weed.

Give Them a Call

A phone call is a little safer, but it can still be awkward phoning and asking your friend for cannabis. We recommend making it clear that you’re willing to foot some of the bill, rather than forcing your friend to pay for the entire ounce that you’ll both be using.

Again, it’s best to try and be subtle in case anyone overhears. Although cannabis is being legalized in numerous states, there are still plenty of disapproving ears that might get in the way of your good time.

Get Together in Person

Probably the best way to ask your friend for weed is in person. First of all, it’s less awkward. If you’re lazing around with your pals looking for something to do, making the suggestion to get high is likely to be welcomed. Once an individual has been nominated to pick up, the rest of the group can relax and enjoy the vibes together.

If you’ve never smoked weed before, this is the best time to do it. Being around people in a comfortable environment is the safest and most enjoyable way to toke up. Plus, your buddies will be there for you if you overdo it and green out.

By the way, broaching the subject in person is also more straightforward than the other methods we have mentioned. All you have to do is ask!

Final Thoughts on Asking a Friend for Weed

There are several situations where you might want to ask a friend for weed, especially if you’re new to the cannabis community and are looking for a guide. Fortunately for you, the cannabis community is very welcoming, and your friend is likely to help you out quite eagerly. As long as you’re willing to pay your share, asking a friend for cannabis is easy.

Please note that we would never encourage our readers to do something illegal. Always make sure you check the cannabis laws in your state, as regulations surrounding weed are constantly changing.

Are you nervous about asking a friend for weed? We've got some great tips to help you feel more confident when bringing up the subject of cannabis.

Ask MetaFilter

Now I am many years out of college, and my dealer connection moved to Portland but I would still would like to smoke now and again, and yet, I have no freaking clue how to find a source.

Demographic info: I’m 28, female, and single, live in a smallish city in the Hudson Valley about 1 hour north of NYC with a significant college stupid population + a number of Jamaican and Haitian immigrants, with a nice cross section of folks living around me. There are a few smoke shops in the area, but they are scattered around everywhere. I can smell weed when I walk down the street so I know that people around me who have it, but I don’t know how to take the next step here and find someone who will sell to me.

I know weed is not legal in this country – please no lectures on that. I also know the likelihood of the cops in my hood caring about me and my pathetic display of sometimes smoking one joint a month is slim to none. I just want to know how I, as someone who lives in a small city full of pot-smokers and no longer has a dealer, gets pot. If anyone can help, that will be great. Thanks.

Are there any music venues in your city that feature a lot of weed-friendly acts who in turn draw a weed-friendly crowd?

(Not a smoker myself. This answer is the first thing that came to mind.)
posted by jason’s_planet at 1:21 PM on April 13, 2013

Hudson Valley mefite. There are not many metafilter meet-ups around here, and I don’t know that they’d be fruitful for this, anyway.

Not that I would mind if they were, but *shrug*
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 2:14 PM on April 13, 2013

Casually say to a friend/co-worker/neighbour, “Y’know, I was walking down the street the other day and I could smell weed – and, when I started thinking about it, I realized that I don’t know anyone around here who sells it..unlike when I was in college!”

If your friend knows someone, or is someone, who deals, they’ll tell you. Then, depending on how direct you’re feeling, you can say, “OH, HOOK ME UP!” or some variant.

If your friend is not a weed-person or had an issue with weed, they’ll say something like, “Oh, man, it’s awful how you smell that everywhere now, isn’t it?” and you can smile and shake your head and make a mental note to NOT invite that person over to hang out when you finally procure the weed from elsewhere.

If you know any of the people on your street, even to say “Hey!” when you make eye contact, you can also say, “Hey, that smells great!” next time you smell what they’re smoking and, chances are good, you’ll be offered some. You can then work that into a conversation about how you can get more in the future.

Most of the people I know who smoke are happy to tell you where they got it – but they’re not going to walk up to someone who’s given no indication of being interested.
posted by VioletU at 2:29 PM on April 13, 2013 [6 favorites]

I’m assuming that you’re near Vassar? I went there about five years ago; there are a ton of students who are friendly and can hook you up.

Just wander around on the quad or by Sunset Hill and ask people who are lazing around smoking cigarettes if they can help you out. Dress like a college student and just seem nice. Someone there will know.
posted by k8lin at 3:01 PM on April 13, 2013

When I was in Canada with my friends several years ago, I asked a taxi driver “Hey, do you know where we can get a smoke?” He said “What kind of smoke?” and I responded “the special kind.” He ended up selling us pot right out of his car.

I don’t think you’ll have much trouble with that approach since New York State has decriminalized marijuana – as long as you’re not possessing over 25 grams (0.88 ounces) or less of cannabis it’s just a civil offense that you’ll only be ticketed for.
posted by wolfdreams01 at 7:46 PM on April 13, 2013 [1 favorite]

Ask MetaFilter Now I am many years out of college, and my dealer connection moved to Portland but I would still would like to smoke now and again, and yet, I have no freaking clue how to find a